Divorcing or separating is tough enough, but when you add children into the mix, it can become even harder. Now instead of having two parents working together to raise the children, you have two parents in their own environment, parenting their own way. So how can you help to make this transition from a two parent household to a one parent household smoother and simpler? Allow us to help you with a few simple tips to plan your child custody.
Don’t cause more problems by negative talking – while it can be hard not to bad mouth your partner you must remember you are the adult in this situation and your children don’t need to hear negative things about the other parent (even if they are bad). Follow the old rule “if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.”
It’s no longer about you – the divorce was about you, but when it comes to custody, it is about the kids and nothing else. The best interests of the children are what need to be kept in mind.
A bad spouse can still be a good parent – just because your partner stunk at being a spouse doesn’t mean they aren’t a good parent. Research has shown that having both parents present in a child’s life is beneficial, so put your differences aside and think about the children.
Open communication – finding the best way to communicate with your spouse about the children and keeping that way open and accessible is a top concern among parents. You want to be in the loop of knowledge when it comes to your children, whether they are with you or not.
Let your child speak – your child being heard is an important thing. They want to know you are truly listening to them. Let your children speak freely and listen intently to them.
Schedules – pick a custody/visitation schedule that works best for your children. If you work all day maybe let the other parent have the children while you work. This will save on daycare bills and give the other parent time with the child.
Seeking legal help when it comes to planning child custody can be a huge benefit. Your legal team is up to date on the child custody laws and will be able to help you find an agreement that works for all parties involved. Just call today to arrange your free consultation with the best family lawyers in melbourne at 03 9898 3100