If you are expecting to go through a divorce without an ounce of pain, you are in for a shock. Even if you have gone through a divorce and have a very good reason for doing so, such as abuse or infidelity, there will still be that point when your struggle – both emotionally and mentally. That is why we have some valuable tips to maybe help you to ease that pain associated with divorce.
Don’t deny the loss or pain. Pain is a natural part of the healing process for many things we experience in life, such as a wound, a death, and even a divorce. Don’t deny the pain you feel or you will hinder the healing process.
Accept the pain, it’s normal. Pain is the body’s way of telling us something is wrong. Typically we listen to our pain and stop doing what we were doing to change our behaviours. A divorce is no different: it is a process that needs to be worked through.
Stay positive. Don’t mope about in the house refusing to get out of bed. Get up, get a shower and put normal clothes on. Make it like every other day of the week and you will, over time, begin to press on with your new life.
Give yourself time to heal. Like a wound or a broken arm, it takes time to heal the pain of divorce. A broken heart will take much longer to heal than a broken arm, but you will recover before you know it.
Keep friends close. During the time of your divorce, and even after, you will need a strong network of friends to support you. Keep your friends close and share your pain with them. Get their thoughts as they might have gone through the similar experience. In the end, a friend is a friend.
Pick up a hobby or stay busy. Keeping busy will help take your mind off the divorce and the pain. It won’t fix it straight away, but it will distract you while you slowly move out of the rut.
Once you are alone the feelings of inadequacy or loneliness might kick in. Just remember why got a divorce in the first place; be strong and know that you will be stronger at the end of it all. Phone today at 03 9898 3100 to arrange your free consultation with family divorce lawyers.